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I stood up for myself after sexually violated by a pervert in a minivan and no one supported me!

Posted on 2012/05/14 | 8 Comments

I am 24 and have been harassed many times (one way or another) but this incident is really shocking. Here’s why:

As usual I finished my 2 hrs run at lebanese university (it’s close to my house and I feel comfortable running there, better than running on the street). When I existed the university and walked a small distance I noticed a guy (aged 17-18) following me. I took a van (small one #4) he followed me and sat next to me.

He tried to start a conversation with me but I clearly stated that am older than him and I dont want to talk to him! he then started to touch my thighs with his fingers:

so I told him:”shu 3am ta3mol!”

He said: “ma shi!”

I can’t remember what happened after but when he wanted to leave the van I stood so he could go down .. his put his hands on my back!!

so I was fed up w I shouted b al van” enta 23od! shu 3melet hal2?! ma fye tenzal! w b kel baradet a3sab bred: ma shi! ana kamalet w edam al kel: ween hatet edak?!

2ali: majnoni enti!

told him: enta al bala a5la2! w hal haki kelo edam al nas w edam al driver!

nezel howi w ma hada 2alo kelmi!!!!! I felt so defeated!! cuz I did what I had to do! although there were 2 men and a women and the van driver!! none of them said a single word!!!!! what a society we live in!! I feel so sorry to even be part of such a community

Submitted by Malak

Location: Hadi Nassrallah Boulevard

Time of harassment: 16-20: Afternoon Rush Hour / العصر

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا


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Sexually Harassed in the Service

Posted on 2012/04/13 | 1 Comment

I was young back then and didn’t know what to do. It happened with me twice the 1st time I was 15 in Zahle and the 2nd time I was 18 in Dbayeh. Both drivers made me sit in the front seat I don’t remember why, probably the back seats were taken. Both of them put their hands on my tight and kissed me on the cheek as I was getting out. Now that I think of what happened I get mad and I wish I did something about it.

Submitted by Anonymous

Location: Dbayeh & Zahle

Time of harassment:  10-16: Daytime / عز النهار

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا

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Harassed at a Fake Job Interview

Posted on 2012/03/14 | Leave a comment

I was asked to have a job interview by the owner of of a Pharmaceutical business at 5.30pm, I went to the office and found there were no staff, the offices were all empty.

The Manager asked me to sit on the couch, me with no suspicion of anything yet did, then he sat right next to me thighs touching and his arm around me…

I was scared, knew he intented to make sex advances, took my purse and ran away terrified by it!

Submitted by F.H.

Location: N/A

Time of harassment: 16-20: Afternoon Rush Hour / العصر

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا

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I told the driver: “You’ve got a sex-addict passenger who assaults women!” and he threw the guy off the bus!!

Posted on 2012/02/08 | Leave a comment

I finished work at 5:30 PM in Ashrafieh and went out looking for a cab to go back home. I spotted a bus (bus number 2) and boarded it. I thought it’s a good idea, it’ll be a direct way and i’d spare more money at the same time.

The bus was full. I sat on a small seat in the front row, next to a guy who was apparently sleeping. As the bus began moving, the guy started to wake up and more passengers came in and were standing in the bus.

I felt like the guy’s leg hit mine; I didn’t give this an importance, as it’s not the first time people’s legs hit me in buses or cabs.

But.. later that feeling became more consistent, and as i was trying to get away from the guy i noticed he was getting closer to me, and i felt something like a hard ball on my leg!!!

Then i turned my head lightly… And I saw that he was holding his d*ck and rubbing it against my leg !!! I quickly jumped off my seat and yelled at him, then reported him to the driver: “You’ve got a sex-addict passenger who assaults women!” the driver got mad, punched the guy on his face and head, and literally threw him out of the bus.

The other passengers were stunned. I kept sitting next to the driver until some seats were empty, then a lady asked me to sit next to her.

Isn’t transportation safe anymore ?!

Submitted by R.A.

Location: Monot, Achrafiye

Time of harassment: 16-20: Afternoon Rush Hour / العصر

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغطهنا

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“Be prepared… and be ready to scream! DON’T HOLD BACK!”

Posted on 2012/01/05 | Leave a comment

I was very young when this incident occurred… but I remember it as if it was yesterday. I was walking home from a sports club up the road just before the IC on bliss street. I always felt safe because the police station is 2 mins away, maghfar hbeich.

My cousin and I were two young teenagers, maybe 15 years old walking up the hill just before dark. Two men were walking towards us as if they were going to walk right past… very normal situation.

Just as they got close to us, one of them grabbed me by the arm and put his hand on my chest and felt and grabbed me then released me seconds later and continued walking as if nothing happened. My cousin was right next to me, but neither of us could speak a word, I couldn’t bring myself to shout, I was so scared.

My advice to anyone reading this is to be aware of what is around you, be prepared for such instances and be ready to scream… if I had uttered a sound, the police would have been there in seconds and this dirty man would never have hurt anyone else.

DON’T HOLD BACK, you have nothing to be ashamed of, they should be locked away so we can have a safe society to live in.

Submitted by L

Location: Maghfar Hbeich, Ras Beirut

Time of harassment:   16-20: Afternoon Rush Hour / العصر

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدد

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Sexually assaulted by my boss: “Fuck dirty men they are everywhere!”

Posted on 2011/12/09 | 4 Comments

there was this Engineering company, that wanted to recruit a secretary so I applied and during the interview the boss was very nice and we agreed on 800 $ per month and he said that me and his wife are from the same village in the south and i am the same age like his son and he was calling me “daughter”…

so one day we were alone in the office (me and the boss) and he pointed to me at “hotel le promenade” and he said that it is a nice place and I said ok , so what , and then he grabbed me and he pressed on my breast and he said he will pay his life if i let him play with my boobs cz his wife has very small breasts and when I fought back and said no, he bluntly said “why do you think I am paying you 800 $ then?”

so I start packing my things and i told him that it will cost him less money if he convinced his wife to enlarge her breasts :)

Fuck dirty men they are everywhere …

Submitted by M.D.

Location: Jdeideh – el madini el sina3iyeh

Time of harassment:   10-16: Daytime / عز النهار

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدد


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“We can’t be living in a country where it is acceptable for men to do whatever they want to women. We should value ourselves more.”

Posted on 2011/08/03 | Leave a comment

I was walking to university with my friend. Suddenly i see a very big and tall man leaning over me. He whispered in my ear how he wanted to fondle my breasts and then pinched my butt. I froze because i was so shocked.

My friend pulled my hand and we ran together to the university gate. There were many people on the street. Also, three girls were staring at us in shock. This is one of the few incidents i have encountered.

When i lived in makdisi street,the same men use to shout out the same vulgar remarks everyday. Surprisingly, the darak were the ones that use to harass me the most.

I went to university in beirut and in kaslik. In both universities many professors have the habit of obscenely checking me and other girls out. Last week i was talking to my professor. He is fifty and is married with two kids. While i was talking to him he was staring at my breasts and then cut me off and walked away. I didn’t say anything because i did not want to upset him. Upsetting him might make him fail me. . .

I reached a point were i got used to this behaviour since it is so common and no one will hold them accountable. This is very bad. Something should be done to limit harassment. We can’t be living in a country where it is acceptable for men to do whatever they want to women. We should value ourselves more.

Submitted by Anonymous

Location: Hamra & Kaslik

Time of harassment: 10-16: Daytime / عز النهار

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدد

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“WHO TO TALK TO! WAT TO DO! HOW TO STOP thiss!!!!”

Posted on 2011/07/27 | Leave a comment

I was on my way from the bus station to my house in maarad street, and i was back from a long training day at 8pm! i was walking on the side walk and i heard the voice of a motorcycle coming near by, i got scared but i didnt picture it might actually happen but it did! he touched me! he actually w bkel wa2aha puts his hand on my ass!

and at zat minute my head spinned! i couldnt believe wat was happening and i started screaming and crying like a mad person!! he ran away!

1- why the hell arent there any lights on the streett!!!

2- why the hell arent there any policemen to protect us at night!

3- why the hell cant i just go home peacefully after a long day of work!!

4- why the hell Motorcycles are allowed to drive on the side walk!

5- why motorcycles arent bannedd!! IT IS A MUST! BAN MOTORCYCLES!

6- WHO THE HELL DOES THIS ANIMAL THINKS HE IS TO TOUCH ME!

7- why nothing is being done about this! why can they just go unpunished! WHO TO TALK TO! WAT TO DO! HOW TO STOP thiss!!!!

Submitted by Sara.A

Location: Maarad

Time of harassment:  20-2: Night / الليل

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده

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“What kind of image of women and relationships did you grow up looking at?”

Posted on 2011/07/13 | Leave a comment

I was at the pool swimming and some guy just came and grabbed my ass. WTF?!?!!! I told him to fuck off. HE started trying to follow my friend and I until we screamed at him.

We then figured that for the whole time he was talking to our mums, trying to make a ‘nice impression’. SO i ASK WHY?

I mean, you grab my ass and then act as if it is ok and go try to make good impressions on mums? What kind of twisted double standard thinking is that?

What kind of education based on what kind of taboos and wicked principles were you raised on? What kind of image of women and relationships did you grow up looking at?

Submitted by pinkchiwawa

Location: Jounieh

Time of harassment: 10-16: Daytime / عز النهار

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هل لديك تجربة شخصية مع التحرش الجنسي أو الاعتداء تريد مشاركته ؟ الرجاء الضغط هنا وملء استمارة التقديم على الانترنت. وتنشر جميع التقارير مجهول ما لم تحدده

 

ED note: for more on sexual harassment & the objectification of women through advertising, check this video out:

shout out to twitter handle @yarachehayed for the excellent work!

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مسبح الرياضي: عنصريين ومتحرشين جنسيا

Posted on 2011/07/11 | Leave a comment

الحادثة التي سأقصّها عليكم حدثت في صيف عام ٢٠٠٩
لكن هذا لا يعني أنها لم تحدث على مدى العامين المنصرمين
وهنا يتمحور ندمي الشديد وحمرنتي المقمعة في عدم نشر هذه الحادثة سابقا

الحادثة تبدأ بزيارة صديقتي الإيرلندية “روزان” إلى لبنان آتية من بريطانيا
هذا بعدما كان قد طلع الشعر على لساني وأنا أحدثها عن لبنان
وجمال لبنان، وروعة لبنان، وطقس لبنان، وقرب الجبل من الشاطىء في لبنان، ولزة أهل لبنان،والأكل في لبنان

فإما شعرت روزان أن لا بد ولامهرب لها إلا زيارة هذا المكان،
أو ربما لتخرسني – في الحالتين
جاءت  وبحقيبتها أمال عالية – هاي هوبس أوروبية
فأمضينا أسبوع رائع بين البحر والجبل والنهر والسهل والسهر
حتى بانت علامات السعادة على وجهها
وفي اليوم السابع  توجهنا إلى مسبح الرياضي في بيروت

وهنا تبدأ القصة

تسبحنا، أكلنا ، تمددنا في الشمس وقرأنا
قالت لي روزان أنني كنت محقا عن لبنان وجماله. فرحت وسعدت
قالت لي أنها توّد تعلم الغطس في لبنان
قلت لها “إيزي” سأسأل عند المدخل إذا كان لديهم غطاس
وتوجهت مع وجهي إلى المدخل
وسألت الرجل الأسمر العجوز
فقال لي: نعم عنا أحلى وأشطر غطاس
قلت له: روعة
أعطاني كرت الغطاس: بسام بقيلي - إحفظوا الإسم جيدا
وعدت مغتبطا إلى روزان مع هدية غطس

كلّمت بسام تلقائيا، فقال لي أنه يمارس الغطس وتعليمه من ثلاثين سنة
إتفقنا على موعد لبدء الدروس


حضرت في الموعد المحدد بعد بضعة أيام برفقة روزان
كانت  هي تطير وتحط من الفرح والحماس
طمأنني بسام بقيلي وهو رجل في الأربعة وستين من عمره،  أن كل شيء سيكون على ما يرام،
وأن دورة الغطس ستستمر خمسة أيام وستحصل روزان على شهادة مصدقة من أميركا  في نهايتها
دفعت له 300 دولار وتركت روزان معه لتتعلم الغطس
شكرني  وطمأنني مرة أخرى  على الطريقة اللبنانية قائلا: مثل إبني إنت، من عيوني، روح ومايكنلك فكر

وذهبت

غطست روزان كل النهار
وفي العصر ذهبت لإحضارها لم أجدها، سألت عنها في المسبح قالوا لي أنها غادرت
إتصلت ببسام قال لي أنه غادر المسبح وروزان غادرت قبله
بدأ الخوف يعتريني، لكن سرعان ما بانت روزان أمامي بوجهها البشوش وبددت كل الخوف
بعدما كانت قد غطست وشاهدت الغروب مع فنجان قهوة في مقهى الروضة
لم أخبرها أنني ذعرت عليها، تركتها فرحة وبلعت غضبي
في اليوم الثاني عدنا إلى الرياضي، و
كما اليوم الأول تركت روزان لتغطس

وذهبت

عند الساعة الرابعة يدّق تلفوني، إنه بسام، روزان في مقهى الكوستا في الحمرا، قال لي
فشكرته
وحضرت إلى كوستا، روزان جالسة وحيدة
وجهها حزين، وعيونها تحبس دموعها
سألتها ما القصة؟ لم تجب
أعدت السؤال مرارا، لم تجب
سألتها لماذا لم تنتظرني في الرياضي، لم تجب

أهو بسام؟

تطلعت هي أرضا وتركت دموعها تروي بلاطات الرصيف
لم تقل شيئا، سكتت،
غمرتها غمرة طويلة
وتركت في أذنها بعضا من عبرات الحب
حتى هدأت قليلا وروت لي ما حصل

قبل أول غطسة صباحية كان بسام ودودا، وعد روزان بغطسة في البحر ورؤية أكواخ الروشة إذا ما تنفست صحيحا

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